Why focus on getting organized? It takes so much time and effort. Is it even worth it?
Why spend the time sorting, purging, and assigning homes to things?
…when your family will probably mess it all up the next day.
Why map out a project and set a deadline?
…when you might not follow through and finish any of it.
Why simplify and only keep what you love?
…when it requires so many decisions…and decisions are hard and exhausting!
Why not just ignore it? Keep the door shut? Walk around it? Leave it for someone else to deal with?
(Maybe, because you’ll feel terrible about yourself the whole time?)
First, figure out your why?
What is your reason for wanting to get organized?
Work this out before you go any further.
Decide your WHY, the reason you are taking action, and be sure it is worth it.
Decide to believe in it.
Then, be all in.
This is your reason. This reason is worth it. You like this reason. And now you are committed to this reason.
Then, get started.
So, when this happens…
When next Thursday comes and you’ve scheduled on your calendar to complete the pantry project and you don’t feel like it, you can remember you’re committed to your why.
You didn’t just commit to it when you feel like it.
You are committed until you’re done!
When I’m trying to lose weight, maintain my weight or just eat healthy, and I see a cookie on the counter, I want to eat the cookie.
I eat the cookie and get pleasure in the moment. But, for the next several hours, I feel disappointed in myself for not having the will power to abstain from the cookie.
I don’t eat the cookie and actually decide to feel disappointed in the moment. I remember my “why” which might be:
- Fueling my body with healthy food gives me the best shot at living a healthy life.
- I want to fit into my jeans so I’m comfortable and don’t have to buy new clothes.
- Having my body ready for any adventure is exciting!
- I want to be able to trust myself to decide what I’m going to eat and eat what I plan.
- I want to quit emotional eating and learn how to deal with my emotions.
As I’m organizing my home, I plan one organizing project. I put an appointment on my calendar to sort paper for 30 minutes.
When the time comes, I REALLY don’t feel like it. I’ve had a late night and it’s the last thing I feel like doing.
Don’t organize. Feel great in the moment watching my favorite show or vegging out watching my Insta stories. Then, feel disappointed all week that I let myself down, my home is a wreck, I can’t seem to get it together and I can’t find the forms I was supposed to turn in.
I practice the thought “I can do anything for 30 minutes” and make myself sort. Deprived (and exhausted) I miss out on my “me” time, but I remember my “why” which might be:
- Simplifying my life will reduce stress and be an example to my family.
- I want to be able to bless others and open my home with hospitality.
- Saving money and finding what I need is important.
- I want to get through all my stuff so I don’t burden anyone else with a house full of stuff.
Then, I feel proud all week that I did what I said I was going to do.
Here’s the thing: It’s optional.
You don’t have to change.
The choice is yours.
You can learn to feel disappointment and deprivation now and reach your goal weight; Or, feel amazing while you eat the cookie and then feel disappointment and deprivation later because you don’t reach your goal.
You can feel disappointed now while you miss out on “me time” and get your home and life organized now; Or, enjoy me time now and later feel disappointed in your cluttered home.
What option will you choose?
It’s your choice.
P.S. On a coaching call recently, my client and I played around with her WHY. She came up with a why that really resonated with her. A few weeks later she shared that she’s noticed, on several occasions, her WHY impacting her decisions in the moment.
I help people come up with their why and then learn how to feel disappointed and deprived NOW 🙂 so they can get on living their best lives. If you haven’t signed up for your free coaching call, go to my calendar here and schedule your call!