This morning I was spending time going through a course I’m using to learn Facebook Ads. In the midst of managing my mind through the overwhelm and frustration, I thought of the similarities between my going through the course and everyone who’s in the process of organizing.
Here I was reading the instructions and looked at the screen shots. I’d go to my own ads manager and couldn’t find the button they said to click. I’d search and look around the page, search on Google and finally move on hoping I’ll find it later.
This happens in every module I read… my pixel is saying inactive, or the “make default” isn’t there, or there’s an error with the “lead” I was supposed to see, etc.
As I was going about my day, I realized how it is so similar to the organizing journey.
Really, developing any new skill is similar.
Here’s what I noticed…
First, we decide to learn something new.
Me: I am thrilled! I’m excited to have access to this course and learn new things. Beginning a new skill always involves a learning curve. I’m ready.
Organizing: You decide to take the next step to get organized. You are ready, even excited.
Then, we schedule time to do it.
Me: I make time. I’m excited to learn this, to figure it out, to have success with it. I’m committed. I scheduled two hours to go through as many modules as I could.
Organizing: You schedule time. You decide to start in your bedroom. Two hours.
We wish someone could do it for us.
Me: Projects always turns out to be harder than I think they will be and take longer than I think they should. But for some reason, I think this time will be different. Nope. Each time it says to do something I can’t seem to find the same button they’re showing or I have to read it multiple times.
Oh, how I wish someone was sitting here beside me. Or, better yet, doing it for me.
Organizing: You’ve organized areas before, or at least tried, but this time you’re committed to simplify and organize every area in your life. You get started. With the first item you ask, “Should I keep or donate?” You can’t decide. You spend five minutes thinking about it. In the meantime you look over at your dresser, at ALL the stuff piled on top. Then you glance over and see the boxes and piles that are waiting for you.
You are tempted to quit. You definitely know it would be better if someone could do it for you. Maybe next week is a better time to start. Living like this isn’t that bad, is it?
We need to learn this.
Me: My coach and business mentor said I need to do this myself. I need to learn Facebook Ads. It’s fine if I want to hire it out later but I need to know what the consultant is talking about when they mention ad sets or pixels or campaigns. I know women and what they are struggling with and I know what will help them.
Organizing: You can’t develop your organizing muscle if you let someone else do it all. Even though it would be nice, right? You need to learn to make decisions. To grow INTO the organized person by developing your organizing muscle, by working it out. You learn how to let things go, to assign homes for items that makes sense with how you live, and by failing your way forward.
Me: Facebook ads need to be monitored and tweaked and possibly changed up completely. You learn by testing, failing, retesting, until you find what works.
Organizing: Organizing isn’t ‘get it done once and never do it again.’ You have to maintain it. Just like a garden. You have to continually pull the weeds. But when you stay on top of it, it’s not a big deal. When you’ve done the work, developed the organizing/decision making muscles, it’s not a new skill. You may need to tweak things as your family changes but by doing the work, you’ll know how.
We MUST manage our brains.
Me: I definitely had to manage my brain! Flopping over to take a nap and whining and complaining was tempting. BUT…I’d made a decision and I was going to stay in the game! Awareness of those thoughts as they came up, without judgement, without beating myself up about it, was key. I intentionally thought from my future…the Tracy that figures it out, that runs successful ads, that helps one million people end their struggle with disorganization. “I will figure this out.” “It’s okay if it takes a while.” “I got this.” “I’m figuring it out.” “Look, I’ve already done this and this.” “I’m determined to learn this.” And my all time favorite, “I’m a women who gets things done!”
Organizing: Managing your mind is essential. Your mind will go directly to quitting, it’s too hard, I’m not good at this. Consciously redirect it.
Keep going. Don’t quit.
Me: I imagine my future Tracy. She knows how to navigate the ads site, how to set up a campaign and how to customize a report and look at the data. Women are seeing results. Lives are changing. All because I kept going now, today.
When I focus my brain on this, I stay in the game. I am determined to learn this, to stay focused.
My future self is telling me,
“Tracy, you’ve got this. I know this part is kind of overwhelming, maybe frustrating, but it is part of becoming who you want to be. It’s part of helping one million women end their struggle with disorganization. Relax. Stay focused. Love the process.”
Organizing: What about your future self? Maybe she is saying,
“You’ve got this. I know this part is overwhelming. There is a lot of stuff. But that’s okay. This is part of becoming who you want to be. It’s part of being the example for your children. It’s part of creating a simplified space so you can focus on contributing the way you dream of. There is so much mental freedom on the other side. It’s worth this struggle. Let it all go. Relax and release your grip on the past and come join me. Stay focused. One decision at a time.”
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