I’m sharing the second of four organizing rules that will change the way you manage and organize your home.
Each week consider the new concept.
See how everything shifts as you drop your old beliefs and old patterns of thinking.
Here was Organizing Rule #1 – You don’t have to do anything if you missed it.
Organizing Rule #2 – There is no right or wrong decision.
What if I told you there is no right or wrong decision? Before you email me disagreeing, read on.
When we think there IS a right decision, we fret and worry that we’ll choose the wrong decision.
We often delay decisions for fear they’ll be wrong.
As I considered this concept, I could physically feel my shoulders dropping.
I just get to pick. Go one way or another. Keep one thing or donate. Move down this path or that one. Store this item here or there. NO big deal. I just get to choose.
A delayed decision = mental clutter.
When we don’t make a decision, we don’t have to be wrong.
If we’re not wrong, we won’t have to feel embarrassed and beat ourselves up and wish we were smarter so we could make better decisions, etc. Have you ever done that?
But, what if we just skipped the “beating ourself up” part? Skipped thinking there was a wrong decision?
And we just began to make decisions?
Making decisions improves with practice.
The more we practice making decisions, the better we get. The less fear and doubt we’ll experience. The more we trust ourselves. The more we can learn and gather data from our decisions.
How to make a decision:
- Ask yourself, “If either decision worked out great, which would I choose?”
- Set a time you will decide (ie. at the end of today, in five minutes.)
- Don’t look back. Don’t second guess. Support yourself in your decision. It’s okay if it doesn’t work out like you wanted. The worst that will happen is you’ll feel an emotion. And I can teach you how to handle that.
You can always reevaluate at a later time. But for now, support the decision you’ve made. It’s the “right” decision…no matter what.
Making a decision doesn’t mean you’ll feel good.
Deciding to sign up for coach training was a BIG decision. I had a deadline to decide and I sat and debated right up until that deadline. Finally, I decided to do it and then felt SICK for a week! But, I decided that I was 100% all in on that decision. No looking back no matter how I felt. It was the “right” decision because I decided it was. And I’m now proving that to be true!
Just because I made a decision and supported myself.
I learned that it’s quite normal for our brains to freak out after we make a decision.
The size of the decision doesn’t mean it will be easier.
I was deciding whether or not to keep my son’s clay monster creation from elementary. I asked my son. He said to throw It out. Gasp! What? The other kids kept theirs. I held the clay monster and couldn’t decide what to do. Back and forth in my mind. I actually didn’t make a decision. I sat it on my shelf and walked by it over and over.
A seemingly small decision. He even told me to throw it out. But, I didn’t decide.
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Decision making takes practice.
Keep reminding yourself that there is no right or wrong decision. You just. get. to. decide.
Have fun making decisions today. Go make three right now.
Eliminate all the mind chatter by just deciding.
Decide. And move on!
If you are sick of being stuck in clutter and indecision and overwhelm and ready to create a new result – like an organized you with an organized home – you’ll need to do something different than what you are doing now.
Schedule a free call with me here. I’ll share some different ideas. Even if you’re scared, embarrassed or even ashamed you haven’t been able to do it on your own…all these years…it’s okay. Schedule a call.
I will help you see what’s been happening and how you can change everything.
Click here to read Organizing Rule #3